Debbie could no longer teach her primary children as well as her own children the things that she herself did not believe. She refused to be a part of the mormon brain-washing culture. “I found myself correcting my child’s church lessons to what I wanted her to learn. I.e. you are not chewed gum or …
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Alan found it impossible to reconcile the truth and science with the church and all the anti-truth he found there. “I was born and raised in the church. I was taught from a young age to value truth over all other considerations. Truth was more important than feelings, authority, or friends. As I grew up …
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As a member of the church and also a gay person, the November policy of exclusion in 2015 was the last straw for Austin. “I had my name removed from the records in 2015 when the Policy of Exclusion was leaked. That was the straw that broke the camel’s back. By that point, I had …
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Jim methodically studies each truth claim of the church and found them all lacking. Each pillar truth claim the church makes is demonstrably false. The church keeps proclaiming these “truths”, in effect pulling the wool over everyone’s eyes. He was then able to write a whole series of books detailing many of his findings! “Day …
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Autumn struggled with the church’s policy of exclusion in 2015 when considering her newly out brother. She could not reconcile denying companionship to so many others. “My older brother came out to me as gay on my 19th birthday. Just a month later, the Church’s Policy of Exclusion, or the November Policy, was publicly revealed. …
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Brandon dug into church history to help a friend resolve concerns and ended up finding concerns of his own. He was disheartened not that no one had answers, but the marginalization he found in even asking the questions! “I had a close friend leave the church and I decided to learn more about my own …
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Sydney found the CES letter both devastating and relieving. She followed up with her most sincere prayer ever but received no answer. There’s only one conclusion at that point. “I did my research, from sources inside the church and out. The breaking point, as I’m sure it was for many, was the CES letter. I …
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Ella bravely considered the scary question. “What if the church isn’t true?” In the end, everything makes more sense once we consider that conclusion. “I finally had the thought; What if it isn’t true? I’d read the gospel topics essays when they came out. I’d served a mission. I’d seen miracles and felt the gift …
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Jordan found happiness in authenticity, even though it meant leaving the mormon church behind. “It never felt congruent with who I knew I was internally. It felt inauthentic to my internal reality.” “I have never been as happy as I am now that I am allowed to be the person that I always knew I …
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Jude found the absurdity when BYU instructors ridiculed him for now fully grasping mormon theology and dove in deep. “when I went to BYUI for my sophomore year of college, I got CALLED OUT by my accounting professor who spent like 80% of our accounting class preaching. How dare I not know the answers to …
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Jim isn’t the only profile to mention the “Dark night of the soul” experienced during a faith crisis. He shows resilience in growing through it while also admitting that it does take some time. “To have been forced into a “Dark night of the soul” was, at first, devastating. But it did teach me to …
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Katie cuts to the chase with the simple acknowledgment that mormon culture is toxic. It’s not worth staying, she doesn’t even have to consider the other reasons. “Why I left: The culture is toxic.” Continue reading the full wasmormon profile at https://wasmormon.org/profile/ktsheets/ Find on social media:
Robbie feels abandoned by God when leaders promise blessings and nothing happens. His only relief is found in accepting that there are only men playing god. “I looked at my watch — they had started my disciplinary council at 7pm and it was now midnight. I went home to a cold dark house. Despite my …
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Nate has two issues and could potentially forgive the first (the church being fictional) if not for the second issue of the church just didn’t work for him. It is fiction and it also doesn’t work. “Besides it being completely fictional, the church just did not work for me.” Continue reading the full wasmormon profile …
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Shelby knows that if she wasn’t born into the church, there’s no way she would believe it. Tradition keeps many people in the church. Luckily, her husband stumbled on the CES letter and she didn’t take much convincing after reading it. “I’d always said ‘If I wasn’t born into it, I wouldn’t believe it.’ I …
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Becca admits that her shelf was loaded with questions and her church leaders were not comfortable with them. Presumably, because they couldn’t answer them, and even permitting space to ask them was too risky for them. The CES letter was bold enough to answer these questions. “I always had more questions than my leaders were …
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Olivia noticed that the promises from the church were empty as she did everything asked and saw the double standard applied to leaders and founder Joseph Smith. He didn’t live the sexual standards of the church. “My main concern has been sexuality— how it’s controlled in the personal lives of members, especially those who are …
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Beth could not rationalize the mental gymnastics required to stay mormon. “My faith transition was not something I took lightly. I spent several painful years trying to make the church work for me. Over time, it became more and more difficult to defend and justify certain things about church history, doctrine, teachings, and culture. I …
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Shawn feels that in leaving mormonism he has discovered real unconditional love! “I love now for love’s sake (not a transactional hope of reward, or fear of a God that shakes his finger). My self-identity is no longer enmeshed in a church, which I once looked to in co-dependence for my emotional/spiritual needs.” shawnmatheson Read …
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We’ll start spotlighting profiles in the blog section with some memorable quotes in graphics format. First up, a concise snippet from Francis. He found that the church was not what it claimed to be. Remaining a mormon would require betraying his own values. “My reasons for leaving the church are most succinctly explained this way: …
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Many people have as their main defense of Mormonism is that it gives them purpose and meaning. “The church is good or useful for me so I stay.” Those who find it useful may or may not be all in believers, they might or might not drink deeply of the kool-aid. We each have a …
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This site enables anyone who desires to share their story. We each have a right to tell our own story and there is so much compassion and understanding to be learned in the reading and sharing of these stories. Each story can help faithful mormons understand their friends and family who have left, while also …
