shame culture
Mormon culture relies heavily on shame to enforce conformity. Members feel shame for doubting, for normal sexual feelings, for not meeting impossible standards of perfection, and for any deviation from expectations. Public confessions to bishops, worthiness interviews, and community judgment create an environment where members hide their true selves. This shame culture contributes to high rates of depression, anxiety, and perfectionism among members.
Profiles with shame culture on their "shelf":
Noal DavisBorn & raised in Norther Utah, I quickly learned that my personal value was only connected to my obedience to the Mormon faith. I was, but am no longer, a Mormon
TimI'm a single father of two boys. I love art and the natural world. I was a mormon.
DawnieI live in beautiful Washington state. I am married with six grown children and three grandchildren. I am an educator, artist, curious learner, lover of board games, puzzles, and animals. I WAS a mormon for 30+ years. 
Grace18I was in an LDS splinter group from birth until middle age.
ShayleeI'm an instructional designer, a wife & mom, and so much more. On the side, I enjoy drinking tea & collecting teaware, reading Tarot, knitting, crocheting, sewing, gaming, and photography. I was a Mormon.
MikeI am a husband, father, teacher, reader, questioner, thinker, traveler and I am living my best life. I was a mormon.
ChelseaI am a lover of coffee, dogs, and life. I was a Mormon.
truthfinder23I am a writer, jazz pianist and fraud investigator.
HannahI'm a nerdy trans woman who enjoys D&D and gaming. I was a mormon.
elneneI was a mormon. Enjoy traveling, beach sports.
ByrdI'm transmasculine, genderqueer, generally queer, and a refugee of Trump's America. I was a mormon.
curtishartleyI enjoy camping, traveling, and playing my banjo. I was a mormon.
Connor Ross AldridgeI enjoy philosophical discussions, to inquire reasonable explanations of phenomena's. I'd seek educational institutions to help the public to better understand anthropology as a scientific theory for acknowledging human origins. I was a mormon.
Frey HigleyI enjoy the culinary arts, theatre, and sewing. I was a mormon.
Andy WilsonI enjoy photography, meditation, cycling, walking and travel. I am a truth-seeker. I was a mormon.
bennjhI work with dogs, I am a trans man married to a fellow trans man, and I was a mormon.
jacobI'm a lover of geography, tokusatsu, Deadpool, and music (basically every genre). I'm 19, I love traveling and learning about other cultures, and I was a Mormon
b.yousefI was a mormon.
Jim AdlhochI enjoy food, art, glass-blowing, friends, meditation, and enjoy partaking of what the Earth has to offer in herbs and drink. I'm a clinician, voice-over actor, artist, philosopher, teacher, and counselor. My spiritual path is now Druidic in a neopagan tradition, and love what the outdoors and the universe can teach me. I was a Mormon.
Jana TapircornI am a nerd with ADHD, who has found a love for critical thinking. I was a mormon.
frankI love books, history, art and I am always learning . I was a mormon.
Ian HarwardI am a musician and a friend to many, and I am a Soldier. I am the atheist in the foxhole they claim doesn’t exist. I was a Mormon.
rosanna1818Both my parents grew up Mormon and so I inherited their beliefs by default. I was born and raised in Utah where my family was actively involved and attended the church and their activities consistently. I was a mormon.
alissa.swensonI am a wife and mom of 1 baby boy and 2 fur babies. I am a therapist, love the lake and boating, I was a mormon.
sallygirl75I was a mormon for 43 years. Now I'm not. Now I live my values with integrity. Stoic philosophy reminds me to have balance and fortitude. The courage to admit when I'm wrong. And it's ok to not have all the answers.
AndrewI am an airline pilot who enjoys traveling the world. I was a mormon.
freidomI am finally free to be happy!
Sam YoungUntil I was excommunicated, I was a Mormon.
Ken ClarkI'm a convert and served as a Bishop. I was a CES teacher for 27 years. I resigned from both the CES and the church at the same time.
madisoncI'm a mom who loves cooking and philosophy. I was a mormon.
Francis BezooyenI am a father, husband, and vfx artist. I love thinking about and discussing a wide variety of topics. I also love all the usual stuff like art, music, movies, food, reading, writing, hiking, cycling, and much more. I was a Mormon.
drjohnI'm a graduate business professor (organizational leadership) who is very compassionate, creative, and enjoys traveling to warm places. I seek truth more than highly emotional convictions found in religion, political ideologies, or any system that claims to have the best set of morals, practices, values, and/or solutions for individuals or the world. I was a mormon.
fuchiboca67I was a mormon.
wildway2424I was a mormon. I enjoy the outdoors, time with my family, and my new life as an ex-Mormon.
rlboston92I enjoy camping, art, and amazing food. I am a very curious person and I enjoy learning about other people. I was a mormon.
supitsbreezyI'm into art, music, modeling, gaming, and more! You can find me on all social platforms @SupItsBreezy!
ktsheetsI'm a reader. A solo mom. A chaos coordinator. A parade director. A caffeine drinker. A roadtrip lover. A terrible friend. and I'll forever be was a mormon.
thealanwolfI value truth, morality, and liberty. I was a mormon.
Brandon BridgeI was a mormon
Evan MullinsI'm a husband and father of 4. I am a musician, I make websites for a living and I was a mormon.Create an account to share your own story.