Hi, I’m Kathy
I enjoy traveling, learning, And experiencing a life well lived! I was a mormon.
About me
I grew up Mormon. My family wasn’t a super celestial family. My parents were married in the temple. we went to church pretty regularly. My mom ruled us with the idea in mind that she didn’t want us disappointing her and her status in the relief Society. Growing up and hitting puberty, I felt body really wasn’t mine. it was something to be ashamed of. It was a battle of urges. And if I ever gave into them, I was an abomination of God It was something to be ashamed of. And God help you if you got pregnant. I’m sure my mom was overjoyed that I didn’t get pregnant.
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The numerous times that people were rude and mean. Like, someone that I had no clue who they were came up to me in church and asked what husband I was on. Another time some woman got up in relief society, and started to preach that if you are on any sort of head meds that it’s your fault, and it’s because you are not faithful enough. And if you become faithful and follow the church and pay your tithing, then you won’t have to take these meds. So these actions by church members came with the explanation that it’s not the church. It’s sometimes the people. Well, are the people not the church? Especially if these people are making up doctrine.? it’s ridiculous and caused a lot of damage.
Questions about Mormons My Answers to Questions about Mormonism
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I’m not one who lost faith altogether. I love God and I have a personal relationship with him. I think a lot of Mormons get confused and think that religion and your relationship with God has to be one and the same, they must intertwine. I can’t think of anything further than the truth. God is everywhere. He’s not just in the temple and he isn’t just available if you’re perfect, everyone has access to him. God is not exclusive. That’s another thing that mormons are confused with, and it makes it really culty, a lot of other religions welcome people. They aren’t exclusive. The Mormon church is one of the most exclusive, churches or cults I have ever experienced. The way that Mormons expect perfection is extremely unhealthy. That’s probably why Utah has the highest suicide rate among teenagers. Most other religions accept the fact that we are all sinners, and that we need God in our lives to help us. This is where the Mormon church is so toxic.
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I do consider myself Christian. I honestly don’t think that Mormons should consider themselves Christians. They should consider themselves Joseph Smithians. There’s far much more Worship of Joseph Smith than there ever is Jesus. And there’s far much more reference to the book of Mormon than there is the Bible.
#Link to this answer of 'Does the Mormon church protect sexual predators?' by kathyh1976 Does the Mormon church protect sexual predators? See more answers about 'Does the Mormon church protect sexual predators?'
I wholeheartedly believe that not only does the church protect child predators. I know that they have a large legal team that tries to cover up all kinds of accusations from church members that were honestly abused. at one time the church was asking people to call this certain number and they would be taking care of people who are experiencing crisis from sexual trauma from church authorities. They would take these peoples stories and say they were recording them and if they did take any notes, they were confiscated and destroyed. The church members who called the hotline would be thinking that something was going to be done about it were sorely mistaken.
This hits home extremely deep. Because not only does the church cover it up, but they have influenced the state of Utah to almost make it a Haven for sexual predators. You know that the church is the legislature too. In this state there’s no separation from church and state here in Utah.
The reason why I know this is because my ex put a camera in my daughter’s bathroom and was trying to film her. Long story short, the authorities came and did raid on the house and my exes computer equipment was confiscated and it was found to have tons and tons of child porn. I had no clue this was going on. He was charged with 22 felonies. My daughters and I have been fighting this battle, going to court, and it’s a joke. If this monster would’ve done anything like this in Florida, he would’ve been put away for life. In Utah his slimy lawyer sits in court with his BYU mug as to say I went to BYU so I’m perfect I’m above the law and so is my client. So I know for a fact that Utah is a Haven for sexual predators.
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Being Mormon affected my daily life and it still does because not only do you have the church but you have the culture. It is almost all toxic. There’s so much shame and misogyny and struggles that you feel you’ll never be good enough. When I was eight, and I was going to be baptized, the only thing that I thought about was, I was so happy to have a second chance, because then I wasn’t gonna make any mistakes. Who in the hell thinks that when they’re eight years old? I feel like I got my childhood stolen from me. It was not one of love, but one of never feeling good enough.
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I am happy now. Yes I reflect things that I have issues with. I see a therapist and it has helped immensely. I refuse to let the people and the church bring me down because I know that is not what God wants. My purpose in life is to ascend to a higher state of consciousness, and to live the best life that I possibly can and to love those who are struggling. That’s truly Christlike to me.