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I came back to myself

I was a mormon.

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    About me

    For all of my 29 years in the church, I never felt I could speak freely. Early on, I learned what happens to those who don’t blend in.

    The more I blended, the more I lost myself. I mistook “losing yourself in the work,” for losing my identity. Or maybe that’s what was wanted all along.

    The longer I stayed, the easier it became to rationalize away my individuality.

    Once I found my voice again, I couldn’t wait to use it. Within five months I was threatened with two excommunications for apostasy and then resigned in November 2015.

    Two months later I came out as queer.

    Yes, I had buried a lot.

    On my shelf

    • LGBTQ issues
    • marginalization of others

    On the Mormon Spectrum

    • LGBTQ+ Ally
    • Apostate
    • Resigned

    Questions about Mormons My Answers to Questions about Mormonism

    #Link to this answer of 'Where will you go?' by Chris Schaefer Where will you go? See more answers about 'Where will you go?'

    I came back to myself!

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    Originally shared on wherewillyougo.org which is no longer live.

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